Comments on: Don’t give it what it wants http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html Wed, 08 Feb 2012 06:48:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: tulip http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html#comment-15306 tulip Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:41:10 +0000 http://www.fussy.org/wordpress/?p=157#comment-15306 For some reason the other day my RSS reader republished a bunch of your older posts. Somehow I had missed this one. As a panic/anxiety sufferer I was so happy to read this and find a new technique to use when I'm trying to dig out from under an attack. Thanks so much! I have printed this out and have it up in my office. :) For some reason the other day my RSS reader republished a bunch of your older posts. Somehow I had missed this one. As a panic/anxiety sufferer I was so happy to read this and find a new technique to use when I’m trying to dig out from under an attack.
Thanks so much! I have printed this out and have it up in my office. :)

]]> By: braine http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html#comment-15298 braine Mon, 08 Mar 2010 03:12:07 +0000 http://www.fussy.org/wordpress/?p=157#comment-15298 I went swimming with my cousin Jimmy when I was a kid and he used to blow out all his air and lie on the bottom of the town pool for a minute or so, lungs empty. I asked him how, and he said "same way you hold your breath and keep it in; you just stop breathing." I never could do it, quite. He's second in command of a nuclear submarine now and has, from time to time, spent 90 days underwater. Similar lesson, I guess. I went swimming with my cousin Jimmy when I was a kid and he used to blow out all his air and lie on the bottom of the town pool for a minute or so, lungs empty. I asked him how, and he said “same way you hold your breath and keep it in; you just stop breathing.” I never could do it, quite.

He’s second in command of a nuclear submarine now and has, from time to time, spent 90 days underwater. Similar lesson, I guess.

]]> By: Xibee http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html#comment-1181 Xibee Fri, 19 Feb 2010 16:16:32 +0000 http://www.fussy.org/wordpress/?p=157#comment-1181 For all the things I handle, and handle well, I don't think I have ever been able to really DO this. Not really.<br /><br /> On the day-to-day anxieties and built up stuff, I can hoist that off with a tirade of snarky complaint, a method which I love, but everyone around me does not. They really think I'm just annoyed or a naturally kvetchy person, whereas for me it's a true core dump of doom. I need the snark.<br /><br />I guess I always thought that people with children learned what you are learning here. I thought they seemed to be amazing darers in a dance of this iron will to be good parents. Then I grew up and discovered that there were plenty of parents who weren't and were hitting various bottles or their own kids. <br /><br />A wonderful practice to contemplate. Thanks. Will consider. For all the things I handle, and handle well, I don't think I have ever been able to really DO this. Not really.

On the day-to-day anxieties and built up stuff, I can hoist that off with a tirade of snarky complaint, a method which I love, but everyone around me does not. They really think I'm just annoyed or a naturally kvetchy person, whereas for me it's a true core dump of doom. I need the snark.

I guess I always thought that people with children learned what you are learning here. I thought they seemed to be amazing darers in a dance of this iron will to be good parents. Then I grew up and discovered that there were plenty of parents who weren't and were hitting various bottles or their own kids.

A wonderful practice to contemplate. Thanks. Will consider.

]]> By: Monica http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html#comment-1182 Monica Thu, 18 Feb 2010 11:53:19 +0000 http://www.fussy.org/wordpress/?p=157#comment-1182 thank you for honestly describing how I feel so very often, and also for offering some suggestions to keep 'it' at bay. you rock! thank you for honestly describing how I feel so very often, and also for offering some suggestions to keep 'it' at bay. you rock!

]]> By: ElisaC http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html#comment-1183 ElisaC Tue, 16 Feb 2010 12:05:29 +0000 http://www.fussy.org/wordpress/?p=157#comment-1183 Just wanted to let you know that we loved this post so much it was this week's BlogHer of the Week:<br />http://www.blogher.com/blogher-week-fussy<br /><br />It was just what we needed to hear too!<br /><br />xo<br />Elisa<br />on behalf of Elisa, Jory and LIsa<br />BlogHer Just wanted to let you know that we loved this post so much it was this week's BlogHer of the Week:
http://www.blogher.com/blogher-week-fussy

It was just what we needed to hear too!

xo
Elisa
on behalf of Elisa, Jory and LIsa
BlogHer

]]> By: Lollipop Goldstein http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html#comment-1184 Lollipop Goldstein Tue, 16 Feb 2010 09:53:40 +0000 http://www.fussy.org/wordpress/?p=157#comment-1184 This is, absolutely, without a doubt, what I needed to read today. Thank you. This is, absolutely, without a doubt, what I needed to read today. Thank you.

]]> By: Monica http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html#comment-1185 Monica Sun, 07 Feb 2010 15:19:57 +0000 http://www.fussy.org/wordpress/?p=157#comment-1185 So beautifully written and poignant, Eden. I love your posts. So beautifully written and poignant, Eden. I love your posts.

]]> By: Loridori http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html#comment-1186 Loridori Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:08:15 +0000 http://www.fussy.org/wordpress/?p=157#comment-1186 great post, thank you. great post, thank you.

]]> By: Kevin Charnas http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html#comment-1187 Kevin Charnas Fri, 05 Feb 2010 11:10:11 +0000 http://www.fussy.org/wordpress/?p=157#comment-1187 Right. On.<br /><br />I'm not surprised, but still...<br /><br />right on.<br /><br />(At least you have half of your head there) Right. On.

I'm not surprised, but still…

right on.

(At least you have half of your head there)

]]> By: The Grammar Snob http://www.fussy.org/2010/01/dont-give-it-what-it-wants.html#comment-1188 The Grammar Snob Wed, 03 Feb 2010 14:58:46 +0000 http://www.fussy.org/wordpress/?p=157#comment-1188 I need this today. Thanks. So so much. I need this today. Thanks. So so much.

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